Observations: Fran Lebowitz on the parent-adult child relationship today
In her acerbic riffin Elleabout fashion style and how so many of us (men and women alike) lack a sense which clothes looks good on us (don't get her started on men in shorts), Fran Lebowitz, photographer extraordinaire, found a fashion reason to compare today's adult child-parent relationship to that of her generation's.
After wondering why young people are dressing with so little outrageousness or flair ("...someone my age should look at what young people are wearing and think, 'What the hell is that?' Instead I'm totally bored."), she heads straight to the core of what she sees as the relationship that's failing to fuel the revolution:
"To me, the main difference between young people now and the people I was young with isn't so much style, it's the relationships they have with their parents. Their parents like them much more than ours liked us. Our parents weren't our friends. They disapproved of us. All our parents cared about was how we behaved, not how we felt, not what we wanted. But now I see my friends on the phones with their, what, 30-year-old kids? And they're talking about feelings. You would think this kind of relationship would make this adult children more relaxed, but instead they're more concerned. Parent-child relationships have become so collegiate. And so when these grown children go into the world, they expect a certain amount of attention. And they're very disappointed."