A mother is concerned that her 18-year-old, college-bound daughter is having a baby, fathered by an unstable man who is out of the picture--but his parents aren't. How should she handle the situation?
Galanes offers a specific answer to the issue at hand, but it applies in general to many of the sticky situations that involve us and our adult children.
If your daughter’s accidental pregnancy (along with her decisions to carry to term and raise the baby) were not enough to convince you that you are not in the driver’s seat here, I’m not sure what more I can say to hit you over the head with the fact. I get your worry and lurking disappointment. Children having children is heartbreaking. But that ship has sailed. Now is the time for maximizing communication and support for your daughter.....
Remember: You don’t control this new path you’re on, but with openhearted cooperation, you may all find great joy on it. There will be a baby!